I've learned a four step process to solve any problem we encounter. It might not be the ideal solution for everyone but it breaks down the problem and makes it look simple. Here is the simple four step:
When we force ourselves to do some stuff that we are reluctant of doing the consequences might be not as expected.
Did you ever have a situation where you forced yourself to do something and the result of such doing turned out to be bad?
Today, I had a car accident as I was on my way towards a place that I was initially reluctant of going. Even though it wasn't a big accident but was rough as the car slipped in snow and hit the divider. This situation clicked me with this analysis. This kind of result has happened to me quite a lot of time.
The reason? Maybe it's because our sub-conscious mind is already taking it (un-willing behavior) seriously and what our mind wants is to win. Our mind wins in some way when the result turn out to be bad.
There is always a battle between our mind and our doing and mind is always trying to win over our will of doing. This is the main reason behind the consequences in my opinion.
There are various states of problem the we encounter everyday, which can be listed as below:-
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The following are the two lessons from the book Meditations by Marcus Aurelius which I find intriguing:
You take things you can't control as "good" and "bad." And of course when the "bad" things happen or the "good" one don't you blame the God and feel hatred for the people responsible - or those you decide to make responsible. Most of our bad behavior stems or originates from trying to apply such criteria. But if we limit only our actions as "good" and "bad", we would have no reason to challenge God or to treat other man as enemies.
All of us are working together to one end; some consciously with understanding, with knowledge and design; some without knowing it. I think it was Heraclitus who meant this and said, " Those who sleep are also hard at work." - that they too collaborate in that happens.
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It's a new way to evaluate and track individual's performance and character. An organization is a made of people and their culture and character. It's a new policy we've implemented in I-mind group (check out here about I-mind story)
The goal of the "Track card" is to understand where each of us are standing and to know our strengths, weaknesses and loopholes. This will also enhance our personal development as each of us will have a metrics that define us. And the solution to every weaknesses and loopholes is to know our weaknesses and loopholes first.
So, each of us is rating everyone (except themselves) based on six factors (Work participation, Accountability, Conceptual, Reliable, Creativity, and Determined) in the level of 1 - 5, where "1" being Performance level low and "5" means very good Performance.
Remember: the goal of this Track card is not to undermine anyone, but to help in learning and boosting everyone's performance for the future of I-mind.
Things to be considered during rating everyone: All are VERY IMPORTANT
1. Truth is the foundation of excellence so, make sure your assessment is VERY precise and accurate.
2. Evaluate accurately, not kindly.
3. In evaluation, look at the whole picture, not just single moment.
4. If something is true about some people, it's your responsibility that it's true and the person you're assessing also agrees.
5. In the end, accuracy and kindness are the same.
We tend to be attracted by other people’s personality and we pretend to become one.
It's fatal...
Doing this might hurt our own self-respect and self-value. And sometimes we get confused while dealing with situations because of this personality conflict.
We should sort it out before we get any trouble because It’s worth it.
One of the biggest traps we encounter in our life is getting distracted by some "shiny" objects in our way towards greatness. These "shiny" objects can be materialistic objects or a person or any short-terms moments.
We face a situation where these things come up in our way from nowhere and seem to be really important and urgent and attractive and make us focus on them rather than our end goals.
This is huge trap that we all must avoid and not be seduced of.
Building and evolving anything meaningful requires a process. Growth rarely happens through intention alone. It happens through structure, correction, and repeated improvement.
Ray Dalio in his book "Principles" postulates five ways to build and evolve any organization. He uses a word machine to represent any organization. In his word machine is the combination of both 'people' and 'design'.
The five ways he experimented during his journey in Bridgewater to build and evolve this machine were:
This way of thinking applies not only to organizations, but also to personal growth. We often want progress without difficulty, but problems are part of the building process. They reveal what is weak, what is missing, and what needs to be improved.
To evolve, we have to stop seeing problems only as interruptions. They are also information. They show us what the next adjustment requires. When we respond well, growth becomes a cycle: goal, obstacle, diagnosis, redesign, action.
That is how building and evolving really happen—not through wishful thinking, but through repeated refinement.
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The greatest gift one can give someone is the power to be successful. Giving people the opportunity to struggle rather than giving them things they are struggling for will make them more stronger. This may sound ridiculous, but it's true...
Pointing out someone's mistake and weaknesses, which help them correct the mistakes and improve their weaknesses is hard and less appreciated, but it's much more valuable in long run.
But don't get me wrong, it should be done only to someone, who are our closest and who we care about. Because it works that way in reality.
This sequence matters.
Values shape who a person is at the core. They reflect one’s character, culture, and the principles by which life is guided.
Abilities are the strengths a person develops through experience, character, and creative engagement with life. They influence what a person can handle, build, and express.
Skills are the practical competencies learned through repeated practice. They are important, but they are also the most teachable and replaceable of the three.
That is why values should come first, abilities second, and skills last. Skills can be learned. Abilities can be developed. But values determine how both are used. If values are weak, even strong abilities and polished skills can be misdirected. When values are sound, the rest can be built on stronger ground.