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It is self-evident that we are all meant to grow, and with growth comes change. Life does not remain fixed, and neither should we. Growth naturally asks us to move, adjust, and become something more than what we were before.

But unfortunately, most of us do not live according to this principle. Instead, we become fixed in our own thoughts, beliefs, and ways of living. We resist change because it feels uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and uncertain. We want growth, but we do not want the disruption that often comes with it.

That is where the problem begins. The more rigid we become, the more we block our own progress. We keep holding on to old ways even when they no longer serve us. We refuse to rethink, relearn, or adapt, and that is one of the main reasons we fall behind.

Most of us believe that having tight schedule isn't 'living' and we want to have freedom to our daily schedules. We prefer freedom on what we want to do and when we want.

But the irony here is achieving our set goals requires a lot of planning, execution, discipline and a driving energy. So it's better to bury our "so called freedom desire" for the sake of our goals.

There are three things that should be considered if we decide to play the game, whether it is the game of life or the real game.

First, we must know the rules of the game. Most often, we just decide to play the game, just by seeing other players, without knowing the rules. This can be very devastating in most of the game we decide to play (like entrepreneurship, investing and many more).

Second is stakes. We must know our boundaries so that we can focus more efficiently in the rules of the games. If we are not too specific it might harm us.

Third is the time to change the strategy. We can't get different and effective result using the same strategy. We must be open minded to modify or to change the strategy if the old strategy is not working at all. We must decide the time for this otherwise, it might be too late. This is also catastrophic if our timing is wrong.

It is said that we got to have courage to accomplish extraordinary thing. We are said that we should not be fearful and should take risk if we are aiming high.

But if we aware about our purpose, in a long run, we should be fearful sometimes. And this doesn't mean doing nothing because of fear. It means analyzing situations, combating the problems, inspecting the consequences, and making a leap anyway.

Our ideas are like the dots. They might evolve at anytime. To make the ideas work out we got to connect the dots.

Connecting these dots can only happen if only we execute on it.

To make a big dream a reality we've to connect the small dots.

Problems feel different when they are attached to a mission. The same hardship can feel meaningless or meaningful depending on what it is connected to. Without direction or purpose, problems often feel like random suffering: exhausting, unfair, and difficult to endure. But when struggle becomes attached to a mission, it begins to feel different. The pain may still exist, but it gains context.

Many philosophical traditions recognized this. Friedrich Nietzsche wrote, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” Existentialist thinkers believed meaning is not automatically given to life, but created through commitment, responsibility, and chosen direction. Viktor Frankl later observed that people can endure extraordinary hardship when they find meaning within it.

The same principle applies to work, relationships, discipline, and personal growth. Difficult training feels different when connected to mastery. Sacrifice feels different when connected to love or responsibility. Obstacles become more bearable when they are part of something larger than immediate discomfort.

Purpose does not remove struggle. It transforms the way struggle is experienced.

Self-discipline has become very important in our life. Developing self-discipline means developing a self-culture or core values. This is an important asset that everybody should apply in their lives.

Here are 8 ways of developing self-discipline, which I believe could bring a huge impact in our lives:

1. Love pain:  Every day, risk yourself—be comfortable with discomfort, feel the pain, and start to love it.
2. Defy the odds:  Do the things that others are struggling with.
3. Exercise:  Working out every morning regardless of pain or excuses is one way of developing self-discipline.
4. Meditate:  Meditating for 10–20 minutes every day gives powerful energy to start the day. It reinforces strength mentally and physically. It clears negative impulses and promotes positive vibes.
5. Sleep:  Going to bed and waking up every day at a proper time develops self-respect.
6. Set goals:  Vision and purpose keep us looking forward and improving. Making daily, monthly, annual, and end goals is a way of developing self-discipline.
7. Gratitude:  It’s gold—the habit of loving and appreciating oneself and others. It is necessary to balance ourselves.
8. Accountability:  Keeping ourselves accountable to daily goals and daily practices enhances character and self-esteem.

Self-discipline is valuable because it strengthens self-respect. It helps us trust ourselves more. When we repeatedly do what we say we will do, even in small things, our character becomes steadier. And from that steadiness, a stronger life can be built.

I came up with this story the other day that teaches us a very important lesson.

There were a couple who dreamed of better future a better quality of life. They saved their money through out their life and they have saved enough that they one day decided to travel in a Caribbean Cruise. It was a week long trip on one of the giant cruise having swimming pools, a climbing rocks, dozens restaurants and discos.

The couple were so excited about their travel and they can see they are living one of their dream. Since they worked hard in their life to make this happen, they became prudent with their capital. They didn't want to spend extra money. So instead of having expensive and lavish meals they had loaded their bags with cheese and crackers with they hope to save money.

Their days were great. While everyone in the cruise were having incredible meals on the buffet tables- shrimps, lobsters, prime ribs, mountains of desserts, and wines from all around the world, the couple were enjoying with cheese and crackers. But they didn't mind.

Finally on the last day, they decided to have magnificent final dinner. So they turned to buffet table, piled their plates with the best meals they had in their lives. After having the amazing dinner they asked waiter for the bills. They waiter with flabbergasted face said, "What bills?" They said, the bill for this great dinner, wines, desserts and everything."

The waiter looked at them and said, "Didn't you know the meals come with the trip?"

Look at the irony here. We often dream bigger and make ourselves more concerned towards past while something more meaningful and joyful shrinks from our present. The best wealth is love, opportunity, health friends and family which we don't focus on; and all of these an present right now. Not in the near future.

So Start living...

There was a research done with monkey and apples. A monkey was given an apples and observed that he was happy. But when he was again given 2 apples and then one was taken away from him, he was so freaked out even though he still had one apple.

Human beings react in same way. We underestimate how we feel when we lose. We act like it's okay but we don't want to lose. The pleasure of our victories is overshadowed by the pain of our failures and losses.

Our pains and failures are true so are our emotions....

Conditions are the circumstances that we encounter during the process. Decisions are the choice we make at every conditions.

The most important thing is that our conditions does not determines our life; it does not define us.

It is our decisions that determines us not the conditions.