Human talents are not craved in the stone, they can be cultivated. Most of us quit our startups, our job and even relationships, feeling that we are not worthy for it.
But the truth is we weren't worthy of anything unless we tried to be. Everything can be cultivated. Every human qualities from love and emotions to grit and perseverance can be cultivated.
We hear too often to be positive about everything we encounter. "Be Positive!" Affirm you're great so that you become one. Feel confident so that you become confident. Force yourself to be happy so that you can be happy.
Do they really work?
According to my understanding and experience, they all are bullshit. Being positive is wrong....
For the sake of being optimistic we're being too optimistic by ignoring the real situations and true "self". This is making our "self" unhappy all the time.
When we force our-self to be positive all the time we deny the real existence of the problem, we deny to cope with it, we ignore the failure. And ignoring the failure is massive failure because we're supposed to learn from it not to ignore it.
Does this mean being positive is wrong?
......Step by step we increase our performance
Step by step we rise strong on our patience
Step by step we increase our focus
Step by step we find purpose in life
We leap two step and fall back one. We set back, we think, we work, we plan always to move forward.
And step by step we succeed....
We're told that we should have a high self-esteem. We must have positive thoughts and positive attitude about oneself.We're told that every single one of us are exceptional and and are born with true talents. If that is true then why we're still lacking happiness? Why we still struggle for success?
The hard reality is none of us are exceptional neither we are born to achieve massive success until and unless we put insane amount of work and invest on it. None of us are liked by others unless we help them. None of can truly feel good about themselves unless they have good in them. None of us deserve good things but good things come to those who invest insane amount of time at work.
Entitlement is a failed strategy. There is no positive output of feeling good about oneself without having the good reason of feeling good. The facade impression of oneself, we keep to protect our superiority, is none other than our jealousy and that will eat us alive. It blinds us from the true capability and also insulates us from the magic of humbleness.
None of us deserve extra-ordinary things neither we are born with it, we all have the same approach. We do not benefit from the entitlement and it's never ending but we can work to be less entitled because it's worth it.
We aspire to become the greatest personality not realizing we've left our-self far behind. We compare our house with others, cars with our friends, girl-friends and boy-friends with others. This is giving birth to envy, jealousy, unhappiness and unfulfillment.
Looking at other's happy face in Facebook, the travel stories of Bora-Bora in Instagram, and success tweets in Twitter and meanwhile you're still flushing your own toilet make you feel like you're a dumb-ass, your life suck.
Well, then you must consider something. Happiness is not found outside, its inner peace. Success is not having bigger house than others, beautiful cars than others nor having sexy girl-friends than others, it is becoming the better version of yourself than you're yesterday.
Everything is about comparing yourself with your past. In-spite of the fear i n your heart, remember that scariest move that you took yesterday that made you stand here right now. Be grateful for that.
You're becoming better version everyday....
Thoughts are so intense that it might make you or break you. Big dreams die before it is born and executed by the thinking process. On the other hand, it is also lived by the faith on the obsessive thoughts.
We think ourselves so small by looking at the present conditions. We sell ourselves too short looking at the struggles we are facing today.
What is it that makes you small and weak? What is it that makes you quit your dream job? What is it that makes your heart shrink? What is it that makes you unhappy?
The answer to all these important questions is so simple yet tragic and powerful. Its YOU. It is your thoughts about yourself. Its your lack of self-esteem. Somebody said it so beautifully- To win a war you must win many many battles. But, in this battle of living the wildest dream, living the life of passion, the greatest enemy is not your enemy but yourself who always holds you back.
Don't sell yourself short, whatever you have accomplished till this date is just the shadow of what you truly can. You are always more than you think you are.....
We see lots of people these days who decide before they try. Maybe because they don't see any future there or maybe they think that is not going to work out for them.
But here is the thing, how did you know that the thing you're dreaming of is not good without even trying? You didn't know those skittles were the best without tasting it. You didn't know you love to be thrilled unless you do some sorts of adventurous activities and you've no clue about those hot-dogs until and unless you try it.
The point here is trying things out is what gives us the direction. This is what that pumps us and make us move forward. Yes, of course we gonna have to deal with failure and rejections. And indeed failure sucks, rejection hurts but we can't stop doing and trying things out because this is what that keeps us going.
Life is talent and work ethics, nothing less nothing more. And doing is what gives us the direction.....
Gratitude is the powerful drug of human life which raises the energy of human on every situations. you can not exercise more energy and power without gratitude as it keeps us connected with the power.
Its impossible to live a increasing life without being grateful for the things you do everyday. If you do hundreds of good things and one bad things, you remember only that one bad deeds. This is the human nature but can be transformed. Appreciating each and every person you meet, being grateful to each and every things you do can render you more power and energy to live increasing life
This Thanksgiving is about gratitude. Its not only to celebrate the end of harvest but thanking everyone else who have a role in your life.
Let this strategy begin and change everyone's life.
Happy Thanksgiving!!!!
It is obvious that our mental conditions can affect our physical performances. The more we are mentally anxious, stressed, the more likely we are to end up screwing up our performances.
Our performances whether its a sports or our daily activities, are not only by physiological process but mental health has the key role. The relationship between anxiety, tension, and stress has been the topic of various theories over time.
The relationship between stress and performances was portrayed by stress response curve created by Nixon P. in 1979. This curve clearly revealed that as the level of stress increases, the performance level also increases to a certain level. But when the stress keep increasing and starts overwhelming the performance level starts to decline even causing ill-health or breakdown. When a stress level reaches uncontrollably high the person gradually experience drastic decline in the performances and losses enthusiasm to cope with stress.
Same sorts of result happens with increase in anxiety and tension.
Prevention?
Relaxation: Being relaxed during every performances
Visualization: Visualize every physical parts of body with closed eyes and thinking all of them are perfectly working.
What goes around comes around. In the same way what you appreciate appreciates you in return.
If you appreciate your struggle, your failure, your accomplishments, it'll certainly give a positive result. But if you avoid it, it can destroy you as well.
This is the reason "The Self" should be appreciated for living a successful and fulfilling life.