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Everybody is talking about mindset. What is exciting is- mindset change the meaning of effort. The meaning of failure is defined by the mindset.

Fixed mindset is a thinking process where success is about their talents and establishing their superiority. It is the culture of genius.

Growth mindset is a thinking process where success is doing the best and improving and never minding about failure as long as they can see improvement. It is about improving ourselves each time.

Being is growth mindset is about changing our thinking process.

We should stop worrying about being smart and avoiding failures instead we should accept failure as the footstep towards our next success. Most importantly, we should just observe, learn, execute, improve, pursue our dream and start going with our life.....

Somebody told us that we have to look the part to win. That's why we are obsessed with faking it until we make it. When we are faking ourselves, it means we are living the life in defense; we are living the life of illusion. We are living someone else life. 'YOU' never live when you are living someone else life. And nothing is more heartbreaking then living some one else life. And most tragic thing about "fake it till you make it" is we are fooling only the looser not the winners.

For the sake of faking it until you make it we avoid our suffering not realizing the avoidance of suffering is the form of suffering. We deny failure not realizing the denial of failure is a failure. We hide our shame without realizing that hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. Will Smith said it beautifully- " We spend money we haven't earned on things we don't need to impress the people we don't like."

" We spend money we haven't earned on things we don't need to impress the people we don't like."

- Will Smith

Behaving like other people is hiding our real feeling and our thoughts. A study published in the Journal of Consumer Research found that people who tried to prove their worth to others were more likely to dwell on their shortcomings. Ambitious professionals who wore luxury clothing in an effort to appear successful, and MBA students who wore Rolex watches to increase their self-worth just ended up feeling like bigger failures.

We have to be aware that this is a game. This game is not with others but with ourselves and living "OUR" version is the best way to be in the game.

If you're living someone else life, when you're living YOURS.......?

Give a little more.

Stay open for receiving.

Be prepared for next adventure of life

Play the game of long run.

Embrace possibility.

Live your life on offence.

Start with your purpose.

Tell the truth.

Give best on every work. Little wins are big wins.

Seek opportunity, mainly when you feel nothing is left.

Practice patience.

Guard your reputation.

Enhance fearless faith.

Practice the habit of gratefulness.

Learn to forgive.

Pray for others, especially who have don't like you and and have mistreated you.

Be humble.

Keep your promises.

Show up.

Never doubt yourself.

Do work that matters and takes you a step towards your purpose.

Take responsibility.

Make your mom proud.

Develop empathy.

Talk progress.

Sense happiness.

Give credit.

Interconnect ideas.

Keep encouraging yourself.

Be inspired by your work.

Make attitude your allies.

Leap.

Experiment.

Live.

Breathe.

Because we are designed the live the best version of ourselves and we can. It is up to us that motivates us. So it leaves us with the CHOICE. And our choice can change everything....

Somebody said- "It's better to lose a battle and win a war than to win a battle and and lose a war." What they mean is life is a game of long run. Whatever we are facing today is not the end; it is just the beginning. The rejection we are facing, the anxieties we are dealing and the failure we are encountering now is just the part of game.

We spend our time fighting with each other instead of fighting for the things that really matter, for the shake of happiness and pleasure, not realizing that it is just short term. We end up focusing on current things while something more crucial shrinks on background.

Focusing on short-term game can make people happy but they are not fulfilled. Everybody sounds tough and they sounds like they have figured it out. But the reality is there is very little toughness and most people have not figured it out.

The reason behind the people focusing on short-term happiness is because we are born in the world of instant gratification. We want to buy some thing? go to Amazon, it arrives the next day. We want to watch movie, log in to Netflix or YouTube. Everything we want we get instantaneously except the things that truly matter in our real life ( like job satisfaction, relationship, fulfillment, peace of mind), there is no app for this.Long game is slow, tough, riddling- but the end is always in favor of us.

To become aware of the things that we want for short-term vs long-term is difficult for all of us. But the most fascinating thing is the more we invest on long-term, the more we will win the game. Henry David Thoreau said it beautifully- "In the long run, you hit only what you aim for.”

Mind is the state of constant thinking. Minding our mind simply means taking control over our mind. Whatever we think, we create the thoughts, which creates words. These words are the building blocks of our life; in fact, they shape our life.

Inner peace is the state attained when we take control over our mind because it (inner peace) depends on inner state, and our mind becomes tranquil and outer peace finally follows.

Minding our minds shape our life and nourishes us to live happy, prosperous, fulfilling and peaceful life. What more do we need?

Finally, when we start taking control over our mind, life start to happen from us not to us- we start creating something purposeful, something fulfilling, something meaningful and valuable. But, it leaves us with choice.

It sounds simple and easy, but it's not.....

What determines our success is not what do we want to enjoy. The legitimate question is "what kind of pain we want to suffer?" This question can change our perspective of life and everything. It is what makes us, us; it is what defines us.

Suffering is what pushes us to be innovative  and successful. Suffering through fears is what allows us to build courage and confidence. Suffering of broke is what allows us to start up by our own. Suffering through anxieties is what allows us to enhance our perseverance skills and abilities. In any way it uplifts us...

It is inevitable. No matter what we suffer from something every time, whether it is money, relationship, fulfillment or peace.

And ways to overcome suffering...?

The only way to overcome suffering is to bear it...

Infectors  are recognized by the misfortune they create and leave when they arrive on your life. They are the one with unstable careers and makes your lose your own purpose.  The infector remains unchanged but you will remain mentally unbalanced. Avoid this infection of association.....

The infection of association is so dangerous that its too difficult to come out of you because emotions are too intense.

And the solutions?

Create association with positive ally. Do not embroil  your-self in trying to help them. Recognize fortune and choose to be the part of their company. Make this the rule of your life.

1 little wins each day = 30 wins in each month = 365 wins in one year

The way we do one thing indicates the way we do everything. Every tiniest move is either uplifting our leadership, confidence or productivity or ruining them.

"One cannot do right in one area whilst he is occupied in doing wrong in another area. Life is one indivisible whole."

-Mahatma Gandhi

Every little things indicate the foundation for big things. Somebody said it beautifully: "To win a war, you must win many many battles." No matter what we do, whether it is crucial or trivial, we must be in the best version of ourselves as this move is the predicament for our future result.  Little things are big things.....

Everything starts with our thoughts. Thoughts creates words, words are the vehicle of ideas that drive us towards actions.

Watch our thoughts they become our words, watch our words they become our actions, watch our actions they become habits. Our habits become our character and our character is the blueprint of our destiny.

Everything is cause and effect.....but the inception is our thoughts.

Most of us have two  lives: the life we live and the un-lived life within us. The life we live is the life full of uncertainty and unease. Un-lived life within us is the life we are aspiring to live one, is our maximum potential.

Something has to be done to awake the un-life within ourselves.

Self-awareness is an asset and the key to live that life that is in slumber in ourselves......